Despite that gynecological truth, that collective imagining of the hymen as a sacred seal persists.
Combine that with public sex education curriculum that solely arms kids against pregnancy and STDs, rather than preparing them for any pleasure, and young women probably don't expect to have much fun doing something most commonly associated with blood and babies.
Given the extent of this persistent hymen hype, it's incredible that we lose only our virginity and not our minds as well in the process.
In fact, Sless has been researching and writing about sex for twenty years.
Now with a teenage daughter herself, she wrote the book after dearth of books for girls that weren't purely biological, or whose underlying messages weren't "be in a committed relationship" or "must be troubled to want to do it".
But pretending their curiosity doesn't exist is the first step to them being closed off and never coming to you.